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Thank you so much!!

I hope some of you find this helpful.

As harsh as this is going to sound, I would suggest just letting her go. I don’t condone cheating of any kind, regardless of orientation. If you can’t be just her friend, then you need to just let her go. I know it’s hard, but you’re interfering with a relationship and I don’t ever think that’s a good idea. She sounds quite confused and you need to let her figure things out on her own.

As harsh as this is going to sound, I would suggest just letting her go. I don’t condone cheating of any kind, regardless of orientation. If you can’t be just her friend, then you need to just let her go. I know it’s hard, but you’re interfering with a relationship and I don’t ever think that’s a good idea. She sounds quite confused and you need to let her figure things out on her own.

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Anonymous asked: So I've never been with a girl but I think I would definantly mess around with a girl, boobs and riding just look awesome. But I have a boyfriend and love him very much been dating a few years now and am 21, am I bisexual? I'm a virgin also.

You might be bisexual, but it doesn’t really matter. I can’t stress this enough - that labels don’t matter. You like what you like. But for now, you’re in a committed relationship. You should focus on that and continue to make your relationship with him work :)

- Ashley

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Anonymous asked: I like this girl I've been talking to online, but she lives on the west coast and I live on the east. I want to tell her how I feel, but I also worry it's impossible... Advice?

Love is never impossible. If you two like each other, then the distance won’t matter. You’ll figure it out. Tell her how you feel before it’s too late. 

- Ashley

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Anonymous asked: I had only one lesbian experience, and it was great. It felt so good to be the one who huged from behind when we were going to sleep, and taking all the attitudes... I also always heard everything I did was cute. Like, being nice to girls, saying cute things, and stuff. But I never thought I'd have a homo experience before this one girl. And I really liked it. So, what I'm trying to say is... with all those attitudes and all... am I a lesbian?

You could be. Or, you could not be. It doesn’t really matter though what you label yourself. If you like girls, then you like girls. If you like guys too, then that’s cool. Just go with the flow and like what you like without the pressure of giving it a title.

- Ashley

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Anonymous asked: my girlfriend broke up with me last month. We decided to remain friends, but still liked each other. On the beginning of this month, I asked her if we could get back, and she said that it was hard because we live far from each other. But i insisted, because I really liked her. She, then, said that she liked me only as a friend. I guess I needed to hear that, so I could let go of her... anyway, some time later I told her I liked this other girl and she didn't like it at all. I don't get her...

Girls can be really confusing sometimes. They often are unsure of their own feelings and that makes you suffer, but if she’s giving you mixed signals and has said she only likes you as a friend, I would just suggest moving on and finding someone better.

- Ashley

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Anonymous asked: So, I'm 20 and never dated. I don't know how to find people to date and I don't wanna get older and completely inexperienced when I'm 25 or something. What would you recommend?

That’s not necessarily a bad thing. A lot of people date many times before they’re 20 and that doesn’t mean that they’re in a better place then you, because sometimes their relationships are completely dysfunctional or based on lust, etc. I’m not saying that all young relationships are like that, but sometimes they are. So, I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Maybe you’re one of those lucky people that finds that special person and never has anyone else. Maybe you fall in love once and never experience heartbreak. That isn’t so bad, is it?

Honestly, if you go to college - then meeting people in your classes or through organizations is the way you’re going to meet people. It’s not as easy as it sounds, though. I wouldn’t recommend parties or bars, just because in my opinion, the chances of you finding someone that wants a serious relationship there is slim. I would honestly suggest, just for starters, creating an online dating profile. I know that sounds scary and crazy, but you can find some worthwhile people on there. (You just have to weed out the creeps). There’s a lot of free ones like okcupid that have a lot of lesbians in all areas. Other than that, I mean, the best you can hope for is a chance encounter. 

I hope that helps.

- Ashley 

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Anonymous asked: My vag is ugly and I am considering labiaplasty. I cant have sex until I do because it is gross. idk what should I do? should I get surgery? =/

Listen, we’re not porn stars. Lots of women feel this way about their vaginas. I used to feel this way, too - because mine doesn’t look as nice as girls that I’ve seen in porn. But that’s because most vaginas don’t look like that. They come in all shapes and sizes. Some girls have long labia that stick out. Sometimes their labia isn’t the same size - who cares? If you’re having sex with someone and they really care about you, then I’m hoping they won’t give two shits that your vagina isn’t perfect. If they are, then they’re probably not mature enough to be looking at naked private parts. I guarantee that it will not damper your sex life unless you continue to be insecure about it. I would suggest that you don’t get surgery, because it can make sex painful for you or you won’t be able to feel anything at all. That’s not really worth it just to have a “perfect porn star vagina.”

- Ashley

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Anonymous asked: How did you come out to your parents? I've really felt the need to just get it off my chest and tell my mom but I'm scared and know it will be hella awkward

Well, my parents kind of had a hunch before I even told them. I guess I just gave off that vibe? I told my Mom that I was going to a formal dance with a girl and I didn’t think she’d really think about it, but she did. She was driving home from college for the summer when my freshman year was over and I asked her if she would be upset if I was ever in a relationship with a girl and she said no. Then after some awkward pauses, she said, “If you’re a lesbian, you’re a lesbian. You are my daughter and I’ll love you regardless.” I was afraid to tell my Dad so she agreed to keep it a secret but a couple of days later, it just came out, and they talked about it. I cried because I thought he was going to hate me, but he came inside the house, hugged me, and said he always knew. Then he was like, “well, I guess we have something in common now!” I’m really lucky because my parents are extremely accepting. Just come out when the time is right. If you have a really good relationship with your parents, then it’ll be fine. The time will come and it will feel right, and just say it. I promise it’ll be okay and it gets better!

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Anonymous asked: hi. love your blog. i've been in several straight relationships and only in a handful of lesbian ones - does it make me lesbian if i'm happier [in general] with a female? i mean, i dont hate boys i would just ... rather be friends with them.

I’m the same way. You don’t have to hate men to be a lesbian. That’s just a stereotype. I have a lot of straight male friends, I just want to be with a woman. It’s all who makes you happy and who you see yourself being with physically, mentally and emotionally. 

So, label it whatever you want. They’re not important. Just say, “I want to be in a relationship with a woman.”

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Anonymous asked: Tips on meeting/asking a girl out? And if I went on a date, what would I wear? :)

Just be yourself. Say what comes naturally. Wear what you normally wear. She’s not gonna be feelin’ it if you put on a show. She’ll like you for you. If she doesn’t, then there’s plenty of fish in the sea. Find your mermaid.

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Anonymous asked: I was wondering if I could ask something. Since your a lesbian yourself, I thought you would be able to help. I know I like boys, I've had crushes in the past and a few relationships but they were never really serious, and we never did anything sexually, and I've always found that they liked me more than I liked them. But recently, I've found myself attracted to girls. It's not so much of an emotional thing, more sexual. I find the curves and contours of another girl's body so fucking sexy. I also have a friend, Eleanor, who I spend a lot of my time with, and I just can't get over how gorgeous she is, and I just can't stop myself from looking at her. I mean, her body is amazing, and I can't help but picture her in that way. She asked me a while ago who I liked, and I just panicked and didn't know what to say. I want to speak to her about it,but I'm scared. Whenever I've told my friends secrets in the past, they always get spread around. And it doesn't help that a lot of my friends are peers are homopobic. I haven't acted on anything at the moment, but I just want to experiment with another girl, not necessarily Eleanor, but I just want to know what it feels like. Does this make me bisexual? I'm 15 too, if that helps. Sorry the message is so long. Thanks for reading.

It’s no problem. 

My definition of bisexual is someone that wants a relationship and/or a sexual encounter regardless of whether the person is male or female. So, it kinda sounds like you’re not bisexual if you only like women sexually. If you could see yourself in a relationship with a woman though, then maybe you are. But the labeling isn’t really important, I always tend to stress that. If you want to have sex with girls and date men, then that’s your choice. Live your life how you want and do what makes you happy. And most importantly, don’t give a fuck what others think. It’s your body, your life, and your choices. You can’t help who you’re attracted to either sexually or emotionally, and your real friends will understand and accept that.

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